Keep these quotes somewhere where you are able to look at the often, especially in times of need. An ideal place is in your wellness/happy box.
There are lots here, so there should be something for everyone. I have collected these quotes from all over the web, and have have a copy of them in my own Wellness/Happy box.
I will be putting these quotes into a pdf file so that you are able to download them.
LIVING YOUR LIFE WITH A PURPOSE
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Do not weaken your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are unique that makes each of us special.
Do not set your goals by what other people believe important. Only you know what is beneficial for you.
Do not take for granted the things that favorable to your heart. Hold on to them as you would your life; for without them, life is empty.
Do not let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past nor for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all of the days of your life.
Do not give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the second you stop trying. It is a easily broken fiber that binds us to each other.
Do not be afraid to stumble upon risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be fearless.
Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is not possible to find. The greatest way to receive love is to give love. The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too firmly. In addition, the best way to keep love is to listen with your ears and your heart and follow up your words with actions.
Do not discharge your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope. To be without hope is to be without purpose.
Do not sprint through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be appreciated each step of the way.
Judgment of others
I find that in not judging others and expecting them just the way they are that I tend to not judge myself so harshly.
We are what we are. Our disease is just a color in our spectrum. It does not define us, but we would not be who we are without it. Though it is difficult we cannot take it seriously. Our mood changes are just as ephemeral as our dreams are. Breathe in; breathe out and remember that you will not be the same tomorrow or the next day.
I believe this even when I am crying for no reason.
Tears have Fallen, Hope has been lost.
Knees have been skinned but I have always gotten up.
Love has been cruel, Love has been kind.
I have lived in the dark I have tried to die.
I have been blessed by the mountains and kissed by the sun.
My life is my story, my own and unique. I am proud to be brave and proud to be me.
When I am feeling sad I go to the park put on my headphones and walk as fast as I can. And every now and again I look up at the sky smile and breath deep it makes me happy….
It is never too early to tell a friend or your doctor that you’re switching, up or down. You’ll save yourself a lot of grief by biting the bullet and asking for help when it’s too soon, I promise.
Learning to relax
I find everything I think is silly such as relaxation technique really work. I released a balloon today and it had all my deceased friends names on it bid them farewell. I cried for the first time in 15 years. Who would have known I had all that inside me. What a weight has been lifted. I am Blessed.
Forgive and sympathize with friends and family. Even when they care, they can’t really know how devastating the cycles can be, but they feel them and they get depressed and concerned too. They need to know that it’s OK to go out when you can’t and you don’t feel neglected or abandoned. Sometimes it’s actually encouraging to see others engaged in positive activities—you realize that soon you will be participating with them.
Not by Might, Not by Power…
If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, what am I? And if not now, when?
” Do what you can do and let your higher power do what you can’t do.” unknown author
“Recovery intervention is “not” a crutch” “Bipolar doesn’t define me: “I am an assertive person that recognizes that I need to monitor myself in social situations – and admit it when I am off track….
One Day at a Time
When that dark and negative voice starts tormenting me with negative thoughts and worrying me with the things that might happen in the future, I tell myself “At this very moment and this very minute everything is wonderful, I will not worry about things that may or may not happen in the future, I will live my life one day at a time, and right at this minute everything is perfect”.
Not your illness
I am not my illness. I can think about why I think negative about myself. What is another way to view the situation in a positive way even if I don’t buy into it? Even taking a small view about – maybe – can help move the negative thoughts to being not so persuasive.
More 24/7 support
When I am in pain, I need to talk to a human being. We have a local crisis line in our county that has incredible volunteers-kind, supportive, and very well-trained. Last summer, one volunteer recognized from my symptoms that I had induced an episode of heat exhaustion running around in a manic state. If you have a trustworthy, competent 24/7 hotline in your community, put it on your speed dial. Then there is always someone who has time to talk to you, even if everyone else is “too busy”.
The healing power of humor
When I am depressed and need to be lifted up or manic and need to be brought down, I go to You Tube and watch MY faves: Carlin, Eddie Izzard, Lewis Black. or classic SNL clips (Christopher Walken is my favorite guest). Oh, the healing power that humor can exert! Pick your faves, bookmark them, and watch them whenever you want to or need to!
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you
I like to listen to or watch my favorite stand-up comedians when I’m feeling down. My favorites are David Cross and George Lopez. We may not all have the same taste in comedy but that’s what makes the world go round.
I’m in control now
I know that I am in control of my life now. If I want to spend more time for my personal life in order to get better that is my choice and I am the boss now. I don’t have to do what anyone else tells me and if I choose to not do anything then I can do that too.
Whenever others make me feel “bad” I just put on my favorite music and that’s better than any player I’ve ever heard.
You can do more!
If given the chance, we have a whole lot to offer the world!
Allow the feeling to exist and be explored before making judgments. Resisting a feeling actually seems to give it more power and make it more invasive.
Today and Tomorrow.
Some days the “tips” apply much more to people’s “good days” than to now. Some days just hang on by your fingernails, and hope for the best.
I am the only true expert of how I feel
I love myself now
Never try to be perfect…if you have crooked teeth so what? If you don’t have a slamming body so what? If you think your hair is too frizzy or too straight so what? Be happy with how you are and others will too. Perfection is unreachable.
Believe in yourself
Although I have trouble with believing in myself, I know that this is one key to feeling better. I know that I have value and am capable. When I feel down and hurt by something someone says or I feel that they reject me I can say to myself “I believe in myself. The other person’s opinion about me does not define me.”
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow.” Anonymous
The main thing is not to freak out.
Will freaking out improve the situation or yield the results you want? No, it never does. Stay calm and take a few deep breathes. Now let’s try again.
Music is the antidote
I always have 3 songs planned for the week – one to pick me up, one to bring me down and one when I am feeling OK (to remind me to be thankful for the things in my life). When I feel myself wobble, one of the songs go on. This has also really helped me as my relationship has just ended, and every time I’m about to cry I just put on ‘Haven’t Met You Yet’. Absolute magic. Try it!
I have to remember to not judge how I am doing by how I am feeling.
I try to do one small thing… get out of bed… brush my teeth… take a bath… etc. break everything down. If I think of it as a whole task it is overwhelming and I am paralyzed into doing nothing,
Even when I can’t..
Even when I can’t, somehow I still manage to do whatever it is..
Talk about your meds!!
Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor “What’s up with all these meds, I feel like a zombie.” The point of meds is not to feel like a zombie, but to calm your symptoms down. DO TALK to your doctor if your meds aren’t working or you don’t like how they feel. A GOOD doctor will listen and adjust accordingly!!
Often doctors need your input for the medicine they prescribe. Tell the doctor what has and has not worked for you. The doctor only makes his best guess at what medicine to give you. Being on the wrong medicine can make you more manic, or more depressed.
Medication and life
Good things take time
Coloring gives me a sense of accomplishment and I don’t think about the problems and get upset. It really helps tame the beast and keeps my mind and hands busy. I try to find books and pictures online that have a very complicated design so I have to concentrate.
Instant Mood Lifters
Music, horses (just being around them even, they give so much, unselfishly – a paradox, so strong, yet vulnerable and willing to our requests), swimming, shower, real waffles, hot milk w/honey at nighttime, more later.
Feeling like garbage
Talk to someone who has known you in good and bad times and will really listen and remind you of how you are still that wonderful friend just going through a really bad time. No judgment. For the 1st time in ages, I remembered and felt like who I used to be and hope to be again.
The Day Ahead
My husband put this paper up on the wall so that if and when I get out of bed I can read the words TODAY IS A GOOD DAY! He tells me to keep reading throughout the day so I will remember that today can and will be a good day.
Try and accomplish one thing, you will be amazed by how you feel.
Taste the rainbow
Eat Skittles! Pretend that they are part of your medication management. HAPPY PILLS! And savor their fruity taste, it makes taking your meds more fun, and not as burdensome.
What I cannot do today I can always try tomorrow.
I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can’t handle me at my worst then you absolutely don’t deserve me at my best!
I find when I am very depressed or have too much energy from hypomania, a brisk walk outdoors enjoying nature helps me feel more balanced. I hope it might be of help to you too.
When feeling irritable, find a quiet place away from people. Lower the lights, minimize noise, play something soothing on the stereo. Use relaxation techniques. You will come out of the irritability faster if you can learn to calm that inner snarling dog.
Try not to go long periods of time without eating, your brain needs energy, small snacks between meals will help you have a clear head and keep your mood more level. Whole wheat crackers, cottage cheese, a piece of fruit, etc. will sustain you between meals.
You need you time
Alone in a hot bath is a great place to free your mind cry some tears or just close your eyes and think about nothing………..doesn’t hurt to add bubbles and some good music
TRY HARDER! BE HONEST ABOUT EFFORTS
Instead of giving into suicidal manic hysteria DO use the energy to do a self-care activity. If you’ve got enough energy to destroy the house, or set up suicide plans then you can surely brush your teeth and color a little first 🙂 Try harder to DO something, not to NOT do something.
If It Works…
Don’t fix it, If it works once, do it again. If it doesn’t work, try something (anything!) else.
My short-term memory continues to worsen, either due to meds, illness or the ECTs I’ve had. To offset this, I carry a small notebook that fits in my shirt or hip pocket. I also carry a dependable pen. Any time I need to remember something, I write it in “my other brain”. I use a small Moleskin pad, which works well. But you have to remember to look at the notebook. For that, I set my watch’s repeat timer to go off periodically, and it reminds me to check. It’s not perfect, but it helps.
“How easy it is to see your brother’s faults, how hard it is to face your own. ~Gautam Buddha
The #1 tip of all time.
You may have heard it before…its importance is worth repeating several times a day until it is etched in your brain forever…..Take your medication EVERY DAY at the SAME TIME every day. Get a weekly pill reminder. After 2-3 weeks, you won’t believe the improvement.
Listening to Bach
When I listen to an accomplished pianist play Bach it sounds like perfection. The beauty of a piece of music, so old yet so complex. The tone so haunting – yet so precise; only a modern master could produce it. The impression it leaves me is almost impossible to write about or to verbally describe…..Music is at its best when it is a complete abstraction. An event that can’t be explained or sentimentalized – it just empties the mind and brings joy. Life’s not all bad – good things still left.
When my mind just won’t stop, I have found that doing Sudoku or some other game on the computer that is just challenging enough that I can focus on calms me. It allows me to focus on something other than the thoughts running wildly through my head. It may be hard to get started, but once I do, I have something else to think about aside from the frustration, anger, sadness and fear I am experiencing at that moment/ Heather
Life and Bipolar Disorder
I have personally found that if I tell myself “It is what it is And will be what it will be,” I don’t feel so alone and scared…to have this illness. I have learned it’s not my fault..
Denial anger bargaining depression acceptance
The sooner I learned to deal with life’s experiences keeping this in mind the easier I learned to reach acceptance of my disorder and my actions. And the actions of others.
Just thought I would share a key to better mental health that I have found.
Take your medication and learn all you can about your sickness.
The right call
The best way to fight a crisis is to call that person who has always been there for you, without any regrets, no matter what. You can easily identify that person because he/she is the one who’s there even in your worst moments.
Remember, for every cloudy day, the sun is shining above the clouds. I just cannot see it. It is still there. With the sun, there is always hope. Remember…..
Remember to accept help from those that love you. Give voice to your feelings during your “normal” periods. Reach out during your “downs”. Hold on tight during your “ups”.
It is important to have a positive, collaborative relationship with your provider to be able to openly discuss your illness and treatment plan. Stick with the treatment plan the 2 of you devised and make follow-up appointments as scheduled.
Who we are
I try to always remember that I am not Bipolar that is not who I am. I am a person who has bipolar disorder.
Coping – never Giving Up
It may seem at times that meds and therapy don’t work, and I lose belief in them. But I need to remember that it is about coping the best I can and finding to find joy, bit by bit. It is not about trying for an instant cure or a forever cure. It is about day by day coping and learning to love myself and love life. I must always stick with it.
You have to put the ‘fun’ back into dysfunctional
Comforting Words are sometimes all we have
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” Kahlil Gibran
Something to Remember
The worst is done, and it has been mended. And all will be well, and all will be well, and all will be very well.
-Julian of Norwich
Ups and Downs
When in a depressed state, I try to remember a grandiose statement I routinely say in hypomania that even I knew was ridiculous when I said it. My favorite is “I’m da bomb!” I try to remember it when I’m super sad to remind me that things don’t have to be so serious and the worthless feelings are unnecessary, painful and something to be pushed out of my mind. It’s a way to cheer me up.
10 second breath: breathing in for 4, hold for 2, breathe out for 4
Activities to Relax and Meditate
I created 200 geometric design coloring pages. These coloring pages I colored using fine coloring pencils. I get an uplifting feeling when I look back on the pictures that I colored. While I am coloring my mind get quiet and I become relaxed. Good thoughts begin to come into my mind and I feel at ease within those moments of coloring. My self esteem and confidence has risen up and I feel good about myself that I created an art piece of beauty that came from within my soul.
Use your disease
When I am on the upswing, I do energetic things, like cleaning house, finishing projects, laundry, etc. On a down swing I let myself rest up and leave the rest of the work till I’m up a little better. Use what you are given. SO SO moods are usually left for a lot of writing. Terrie MacCalus
Look up when you look in!
As above, so below. Above all, be a friend to you.
State of mind
Relax, focus, allow to unfold, gentle to all
What I was
What I was before is not who I am today.
Examine negative emotions…am I fighting something that I should be accepting?
Be open to new things by talking to people who you respect. Family is not always as you think they are they can be surprising when you take the focus off of you.
There are actual people out there who care understand and really just want to help!
If I don’t feel connected to reality, sometimes I’ll become completely aware of the moment I’m in. Rather than letting my mind race or wander I’ll think, “I’m in the shower, the water is falling on my skin, I’m washing my hair and I can hear the bubbles making that squishy noise as they clean my hair.” If it only lasts a few minutes, it still gives me a glimpse of reality that I might not have felt without trying.
From BP Magazine
One part of me always watches for unusual darkness or too much light…
Stay focused on you
Stay focused on the little things you can control, don’t get wrapped up I the things that are out of you control, you can’t change what other people will do or how they will act. You can however control how you act and what you say and do.
Think in the NOW
You can’t relive the past; however you can live for today and for the future. Take small steps to move forward from where you are. Write down daily what you are grateful for and what you found to smile about. I find this help a lot. Keeping a daily blog also helps, even if you feel no one reads it, you know it’s out there. You never know it MAY just be helpful to others.
Find one thing to smile about a day. No matter how silly you might find it to be. That smile will be worth it to you and you can reflect on it at a later time, making you smile again.
I listen to music everywhere, of every type for every reason. My iPod goes in pocket so I can listen to it between leaving my car, and my location. When I’m awake, and can’t sleep, I play my own instruments to get to sleep.
If you are conforming for everybody else, they are probably happy, but you aren’t. Follow your own path.
Music Mixes for Recovery
I like making mixes that have songs that I connect to on a deeper level. They are songs that remind me that I have dreams, beliefs, and self outside of my bipolar disorder. That way, when I start having trouble, I can listen to the music and it will start to take me back to a more balanced state.
Listing all the things that I’m grateful for, everyday. Gives me a sense of balance and purpose. When I am unwell, I can look at this list and remember I do have things worthwhile in my life.
Go on internet and research on mental health, rights, advocacy, and peer support. Use where you go for treatment in groups, and at home. Real helpful, for yourself as well as others.
I still cannot grasp onto the idea that this is a way of living for me and that I might have to do it for the rest of my life. Sometimes I get angry that I have to go through this. I no longer ask why or try to figure out why this is my way of life, it just is. I accept it. And, it’s not so bad. If I don’t work through my illness then I cannot experience life and its joyful moments and opportunities. So, what I have working is much better than what I would have if I did nothing.
Lists are the secret..
Write Lists! Write a week list of things that you would like to be able to achieve. Then write a daily list, write things down as you do them.
Doing one or two tasks from the week list a day with in your routine helps get things down without feeling over whelmed and ending up in a swing and not doing any of it. Then you also see what you get done and you feel the accomplishment.
They also help if you can’t get motivated; you can look back and give yourself a starting block.
Write a zany poem, when your mind is racing during manic states. It will make you laugh, and other too.! Think of poets like Lewis Carroll and how amazing the Jabberwocky was. Create new words and phrases, with new situations.
Letting it pass
In my family I am not the only one who struggles with this disorder…we have a code…when I (or another member of my family) says “IM HAVING A BAD DAY” it means we need a little extra space and a little more flexibility in our day for our moods thoughts and feelings. This code allows us to express the fact that we are struggling without allowing us to wallow in the struggle of the day. It’s a code that can work in almost any situation.
People that are bipolar are generally creative and excel in the arts. Use that creativity to pull you through a depression and the mania to create a masterpiece!
It’s tempting to let bad recent events dominate your conversations with other people. Do at least one non-illness related event per week (even as simple as attending a sports game or a book signing, reading) so that, when you do talk to people, it doesn’t have to be about the bad things if you don’t want. It can be a huge relief to just put the bad things to the side and just be “normal!” Don’t hide, but don’t get consumed!
Don’t give up, tame the beast!
Bipolar disorder can rule us, or we can tame the beast. Tame means keeping the beast under control. The choice is ours. We can either let the crummy hand we have been dealt run our lives, or we can take the bull by the horns and give it a swift kick. Sure, it’s a rollercoaster, but what choice do we have? We are fighting to get our lives back! Is bipolar who you are, or what you have?
How to make the best out of MANIC
The key to have a good manic episode is the put it to good use. For example my mom has trained me to wash the dishes while on one. Now that great direction
Don’t give up….. Listen to your body…… Embrace what works and change what doesn’t…… Friends and Family are Everything!
The mood WILL pass
No matter how horrible you feel during a mood swing event … the mood will pass and your loved ones will still love you and the wonderful sun will rise and greet you and world will be waiting … life is beautiful.
The beginning or the end?
The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be only the beginning
You are not alone
Don’t let the mood take you down today. Look outside, step outside and breathe in the air. Listen. Listen to the birds singing, the children playing you are not alone. Call your sister, she knows how you feel tell her that you love her. Take a walk. If it is just around the corner try to go back into life. You are not alone you can see it all around you and you deserve to join in.
It won’t last forever.
I have to remember that when I am going through a medication change & things get really bad & all the old bad feelings come back, that it is only for a few weeks. Things will get better, they always do.
Create a “Humor Book,” so you can read, especially when you’re depressed. Just use an old 3-ring binder and some regular notebook paper. Read only the comics in the newspaper. Cut out only the ones that cause you to really laugh. Tape them to your page. Don’t forget the Sunday comics, and, if you get Reader’s digest, cut and tape those, too. They are some of the funniest!
Present and Future
Live for today but plan for tomorrow.
Spending Binges On-Line
I go on massive spending binges on-line when I’m manic. To control this, I add everything I want to the Shopping Carts, bookmark the sites, and exit. The next day, I go back to the sites and seldom buy anything I added to my cart the preceding day. Many times I never even go back to the original sites.
Take meds same time every day.
I try to listen to those around me as I sometimes have unclear thoughts. They usually know what is best for me, and I am learning to listen with my heart. I now feel so much better. I am stable and live a balanced life.
Reach for the stars
When you have reached the highest high and the lowest low I still manage to tell yourself that you can reach the stars…………because you can in spite of bipolar disorder.
If you listen to the sounds around you, there is LIFE
Be at peace
Accept the past, live in the present
When I’ve hit rock bottom from a depressive episode and am looking at the destruction of my everyday life that has occurred again, I have a little saying I keep repeating to myself to help me start over in my recovery: “pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.”
Shower ever day
Hygiene is very important when you have a mental illness. Mental illness has enough stigma as it is. Make the extra effort to look presentable and clean at work. There is nothing like having clean-looking hair and smelling nice.
The Sun Also Rises
If when depressed I can remind myself that “the sun also rises”= in other words, at some point the depression will subside= it can make the unbearable depression somewhat bearable. The fortunate thing about bipolarity is that we are able to experience joy, happiness, and passion for life to a much greater degree than most people. It is often difficult to see through the fog of depression and even for one second believe it will ever end but it will and it does. The sun also rises……
Do not spend too much energy blaming others; you will have to pay much higher price emotionally. It may be best to accept what has to be done, find a way to do it and spend energy in correcting the problem.
Don’t use bipolar as a crutch
there have been people who have told me not to use bipolar as a crutch but there are some times where you must cause you have to let people know that you have it but it’s not all as bad as they think it is I try to let them know that people with bipolar love, work hard, care, and are good friends but they just have to take medication all the time, it’s not like they wished for this disease they were just born with it or they acquired it at some point in their lifetime
If a man comes to the door of poetry untouched by the madness of the Muses, believing that technique alone will make him a good poet, he and his sane compositions never reach perfection, but are utterly eclipsed by the performances of the inspired madman. – PLATO (428/427 BC- 348/347BC)
One must harbor chaos within oneself to give birth to a dancing star
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
One Day at a Time
I’ve learned to take one task at a time when I am feeling really anxious or depressed. This helps me to stay focused on one thing at a time instead of several all at once.
When it seems like it will never stop.
“Although the world is full of suffering…it is also full of overcoming it.”—Helen Keller
I find that when my life gets too stressful, I can take a time out. This means that I carve out time to relax with a movie, book or music. Sometimes I’ll spend a whole day in my PJ’s (even when I’m not depressed!) so I can really relax and unwind, since most days I’m on the go. This gives me “permission” to play hooky from my hectic life if only for a day or afternoon.
Back to Life
I have found that I have had to adapt to what life is like when I’m not manic or depressed since I’ve been on meds. Some days I miss the high I used to get when I was manic and I felt like I could take on the world, but I wouldn’t choose the high now knowing how low my lows are. It’s hard to accept that I will never be as productive as I was. This is my new life.
Remember, you are not your moods – your thoughts – your emotions, you are a bright human being waiting for this moment to pass. Your mood, your thoughts and your emotions are all unique aspects of how you experience life, they overlap, yet each deserves its’ own attention and respect. With a mood, you can still think effectively and feel the depth of your experience with coherence. The mood is real and temporary, it will pass, know that you are all you are and have been through it all.
Nothing in excess
Remember to take your meds, do your therapies, See your MD and take baths, spend time with friends (especially those who make you laugh), but don’t dump problems on them or they will go away, while you’re left scratching your head. Be kind to others, and be kind to yourself. Easy does it. Do your art.
To the greatest extent possible, take your meds at the same time every day. If you take morning and night meds, try to take them 12 hours apart. It makes a subtle, but noticeable difference.
Pay it forward
Do something kind for a stranger… let them into traffic, hold a door, leave correct change on top of a newspaper box, buy a bouquet of daffodils and leave one on random cars in your parking lot… something that would make someone smile, without any idea of knowing who you are, or who they are. Do it to make another human being smile.
Become a Stigma Buster
If you feel well enough for the challenge, consider becoming an advocate for people with mood disorders. I’ve chosen to do this simply by being open about my bipolar disorder in my daily life. I refuse to hide it like a shameful secret; it is no more and no less a part of me than my black hair and my creativity. Acting naturally around the fact of my illness seems to enhance other people’s understanding and acceptance of it, hopefully helping to pave the way toward a stigma-free future.
SHARING SYMPTOMS and experiences about being BIPOLOAR makes it easier to handle the stresses of being bipolar.
SMILE TO AT LEAST 1 PERSON A DAY
Smiling even when you don’t feel like it helps you as well as the other person. Where I live are a lot of winter Texans who are far from home, and I know how I have felt when visiting a strange place or new event. I love when someone smiles at me and makes me feel right at home. This also helps shake off some depressed mood when I know I am slipping into one. It takes my mind off me and on other people. I try and think how their day must have been. It might have been worse than mine.
We all deserve to be loved. No matter how badly this disease has ravaged our lives we are still worthy of another’s love, most of all we are still worthy of loving ourselves.
Day by Day
I’ve learned I have to take everything day by day, one at a time. Otherwise I can take on too much that will send me into a tailspin in one direction or the other. And I’m learning that if I want to stay healthy I can’t be too hard on myself because of it.
Take a second to realize what’s upsetting me and don’t invalidate my feelings, just take it apart and realize what’s important to deal with and what self created issues is.
Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the guilt trap, worrying about if you caused or caused this illness or should have done this or that. Guilt only wastes your time and prevents you from living now in this moment and making things better for the future.
Never, ever give up. Believe that your real self is still there behind the illness. This is one time in your life when stubbornness becomes a virtue!
Whenever things are building up especially from stress and depression and having no friends (I used to have so many), if I don’t walk it gets worse, even if it’s 3 times a day down and back on my driveway. Since I can’t take anxiety meds during the daytime due to the Narcolepsy, this is the only thing I can do to relieve all of this mess.
Hang around people who make you laugh!!
REMEMBER TO DREAM FOLLOW THE VOICE OF YOUR SPIRIT LISTEN TO THE WISDOM OF YOUR SOUL DANCE TO MUSIC IN YOUR HEART
Stop thinking about all the bad things that happened to you in life. Enjoy, and appreciate the good memories you do have.
Taking meds at the same time (relatively speaking) each day and evening helps my moods to be more stable. I feel so much better; tend to have fewer lows and unfortunately fewer highs. Overall it is better.
Be HONEST with your Health Care Professional
I had that “a HA!” after spending twenty-five years with „severe depression with psychotic features.” I was too scared to admit my manic symptoms existed and didn’t realize they were part of my mental illness. When I finally had the courage to tell my therapist I was having risky sex, spending money and staying up for days at a time, everything changed, and has been slowly changing, for the better. “All” it took was for me to be HONEST with myself and my therapist. Seems simple now.
Break it down
When facing a big task or complex problem, I break it down into smaller more manageable parts and make it into a list. I feel more accomplished as I am able to check things off the list, rather than being overwhelmed by a large task.
Always tell people around you the truth, especially your psychiatrist. If you are unwilling, or unable to trust psychiatrist—try a new one. If you want respect you must show respect to your psychiatrist. No they are not infallible but they do their best.
When my mind is just frantic with thoughts going faster than imaginable, fluttering from task to task, not even sure if I have accomplished anything. Instead of being frustrated about what I didn’t finish, I started writing down a list of things I did complete. It’s a great way for me to acknowledge the positive side.
Just for Today
Just for today I will try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would appeal me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that: “most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Just for today I will adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take each day as it comes and fit myself to it.
Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count; I will do at least two things I don’t want to do – just for exercise; I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt – they may be hurt but today I will not show it.
Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticize not one bit, not find fault with anything, and not try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
Just for today I will have a programme. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests – hurry and indecision.
Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. During this half-hour, sometime, I will try and get a better perspective of my life.
Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that, as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
One step at a time, on your time
Have quiet prayer time, even if it’s just 5 minutes. God is listening. I find going to bed and waking up the same time every night /morning is good for the brain. Get plenty of sleep if you can. Eat less sugar in your diet and no caffeine. Walking is a good relief for the stress trigger. Look into yourself and find what you want to do not what others expect you to do. Keep your plate as empty as possible. Take advantage of manic highs and get stuff done that YOU want done. In manic lows, take it slow, watch a funny movie, write in a journal, get out all that is hurting you. This is what helps me :o}
I have been told I am a “high-functioning” Bi-Polar and BPD. I have been holding down a great job for two years, even after going into the hospital last year for depression and med revamping. I am getting my marriage back together and am having relationships with my kids, family and friends. I know that it is an uphill fight every day but I am willing to fight back. IT IS MY LIFE NOT THE ILLNESSES. I only have one chance at this and I am going to make the very best of it even in spite of the illness. I am beginning to love me. I think that is the first step
Focusing and contemplation
For my depression and bipolar conditions, I try and contemplate what is happening with me, list the symptoms and the results; then try and focus on the positives and negatives of both.
Examining my behaviors, thoughts, feelings and physical responses help me understand and accept myself better, feel more in control, and happier with my life.
My bipolar disorder is PART of who I am, but it is not ALL that I am, nor can I let it BECOME all that I am. I need to learn to live with it and not in spite of it.
The magic of books
Reading takes me to another place and away from whatever is going on in my life. I find that it is a great escape, if only for a little while.
Get right amount of sleep
We all should get the correct amount of sleep. I find for myself I need about 7 to 8 hours of sleep. Then I can go for a good days worth of work.
The illness does not define who you are; it’s merely a best friend to who you are. So you have to learn to work with it, like you would any friendship because this friendship is for life.
The scariest place
Don’t hang out in your mind alone for too long…it can be a confusing, delusional, terrifying place. Take someone with you 🙂
Working toward a healthy mental state, no matter how long it takes, is not selfish. No one should live in MADNESS.
If you are considering whether or not you are over thinking it….YOU ARE OVERTHINKING IT!
It helps me if I reach out to someone, a friend or a relative and help them. I could send a card, do some shopping for them, lend them an attentive ear, plant a flower in their garden, clean their home or anything to make them feel better.
STAYING AWAY FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE
I have found out in recent occasions that in order for me to stay focused and doing what I, need to do to remain on the right track. Than I have to stay away from people who are not equally yoked with me.
When I first started taking Symbyax I felt the panic every day. The only the thing that could calm me down was going outside and walking very quickly in some direction for a while, as if it was imperative for me to get there. Faking myself into feeling needed or busy seemed to get myself out of my head.
Keeping personal space orderly aids in keeping an orderly mind. If I feel stressed, it is helpful to clean out my desk, or my closet. Somehow the expressed physicality “teaches” my mind to discipline my unruly emotions.
Don’t stand up in a canoe.
Knowledge is Power
Learning all I can about my illness gives me a sense of control. At first, everything I learned scared me. But now, knowing more helps me to be more in control of my treatment, instead of just letting someone else tell me what is best for me.